Okay, apparently my brush off method for this guy was just not going to work. Two days after he asked me if work had calmed down (amusing because I never said work was the reason for me being busy in the first place), he felt the need to respond to my lack of response. I got a message simply saying:
I’ll take it that it is a “no.”
In a last ditch effort to save this man some dignity, I told him I thought I was ready for a relationship again but am not. Instead of saying “It’s not you, it’s me” I demonstrated it. I felt this was probably kinder than pointing out that it was most definitely him after all. If this does not ward this guy off once and for all, I am going to have to start filing his emails straight to the trash bin.
Ladies, why is it always the guy you don’t want who does all this, while the guy you do want couldn’t be less interested? Murphy’s law or something?
January 25, 2008 at 10:12 am
There does seem to be some law involved in it, but I am not sure of the name. I have read that we might want to give the guys who really, really like us another chance if they are not just playing games, but I have never been able to do it. I either like them or I don’t. At the same time I always pick idiots so who’s to know…?
January 29, 2008 at 9:10 am
Honestly, I believe there’s a good bit to be said for intuition too. If you feel like someone just isn’t right and you force an extra chance… usually bad things lie down that path. I think I have a divorce to credit to that particular mistake. Listen to your gut, you know?