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By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 19:13:52 +0000

I agree that the guy should always pick up the tab on a first date, not split it. Even if you end up dating as boyfriend/girlfriend, he should pay. I’m old school, I guess.

That said, once you’re in a relationship there are things a woman can do to not break the guy’s wallet. Cook him a meal once in a while, throw a picnic for him, don’t insist on the most expensive new restaurant in town every time.

But for first dates, guys should pay.

For the record, I try only to pick places when I intend to pay. Otherwise I let him choose, make sure I order reasonably, and as long as he’s not a picky eater I will offer to cook frequently.

By: Red

Red — Mon, 05 May 2008 19:29:25 +0000

Oh, good heaven. Yeah, no second date for him!

By: Payne by name

Payne by name — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 18:26:37 +0000

He should have paid for the date in full but maybe getting picky over the bill is his way of laying the foundation that he doesn’t want a second date.

You are right though. If he asked you out and chose the venue then it’s his duty to pay.

More importantly, when you walked back to the car, did he deliberately walk on the outside (ie between you and the road). That’s the mark of a real gent.

By: kitanomaru

kitanomaru — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 15:25:56 +0000

I always pay. And pay. And pay… and pay. Sorry, I am not talking about money any more.

Ha ha

By: delightfuleccentric

delightfuleccentric — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 22:15:32 +0000

This has been an ongoing debate with my friends. I think the guy should pretty much always pay, but especially on a first date, but I am always willing to do “the reach.” The man allowing the reach doesn’t necessarily rule out a second date – but actually adding up what each person had? Yeah, you’re going to get tossed out. That’s when I just throw down a twenty and be done with it, even if my “half” was only $12.

By: flavormonkey

flavormonkey — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 18:04:01 +0000

Wow…I can’t imagine what was going through your date’s head to make him think that was acceptable behavior. It’s bad enough that he didn’t even offer to pick up the check, but to then quibble over the change…both cheap and petty. I’ve only ever split the check once on a first date, and that was because she was threatening to stab me with her fork if I didn’t allow her to take care of her half. Seriously, it was turning into an argument so I just let her have her way. My philosophy is, “If I ask you out, I’m paying.” Go figure.

By: Isabella Ferreira

Isabella Ferreira — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 22:25:44 +0000

OMG! I so totally agree. It’s not that it has to be this way forever… if you wind up in a relationship then of course both parties should cover the costs of things where appropriate but one a first date.. you’ve got to be kidding me! How cheap. So many good manners have gone by the way side but this one absolutely is a must. And guys, if you don’t have the money no big deal, there are plenty of creative things to ask a girl to go do if you are short of funds temporarily… ANYTHING would be better than the above.

By: sometimesispill

sometimesispill — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 21:44:51 +0000

I had a very similar first date experience. The date was pleasant enough. The skies didn’t open and bells didn’t chime. But when the check arrived and he began number-crunching, I was immediately turned off. Besides, when a person quibbles that much over pennies and quarters, chances are they quibble about a lot of things in life.