Here is the gist of an actual exchange, with some questionable grammar and terrible attempts at humor (his, not mine) removed.
Boy: Want to meet at a comedy club in DC sometime?
Girl: I don’t really drive into DC at all. Do you have any ideas for activities outside of DC?
Boy: Oh I don’t drive, I take the metro.
Girl: …
Need I tell you I never emailed again? I realize I used the word “drive”, but I also carefully asked if we could plan an activity not in DC. (I deliberately left that open for him so he could have the freedom to choose something else he might enjoy.) He absolutely refuses to acknowledge that. Therefore I absolutely refuse to go out with him.
Moral of the story: Attempting to bend someone to your will when trying to arrange a first date will result in no date at all.
April 17, 2008 at 8:47 am
Maybe he can find a nice hobo to date on the metro.
April 17, 2008 at 10:17 am
“He absolutely refuses to acknowledge that. Therefore I absolutely refuse to go out with him.”
Nice. Stick to your guns!
April 18, 2008 at 1:22 pm
There is so much I won’t tolerate leading up to, on, or directly after a first date. It’s a wonder I ever get out at all!
May 6, 2008 at 4:48 pm
Good call on your part. If he’s expecting you to come to him for a first date, he’s not going to be much of a giver. Anywhere, I would guess.