Sometimes what a gal really needs is a fresh take on things. Even a jaded One Date Wonder such as myself can still accept advice and try new tricks. So gentle readers, here is the question I’m posing to you:
Aside from online dating, how do you meet new prospects?
Now admittedly, I’d like to meet men. Meeting the ladies will not help me very much. So women, where are you finding them? And men, where are you trying to be found?
Do tell.
June 9, 2008 at 8:41 am
A lot of times, I think you meet guys through your friends. I have a lot of male friends, by the way.;)
So what I’m hearing here is that you’ll set me up with one of your friends. I think this is a grand idea. Let’s talk.
June 9, 2008 at 8:58 am
A guy seemed to maybe be hitting on me, gently, in Giant the other day. I gently brushed him off because I’m _not_ looking to meet anyone right now, but he was cute. I’ve met the last few people I’ve dated online, but friends of friends seems like a good way to go. Anything that can get you an extra degree removed from your normal social circle. Maybe CS’s 3D has friends…
Heh, go ahead and suggest that to her. Probably better for her to find her groove with him first though. Before trying to set up pathetic friends that is!
June 9, 2008 at 9:05 am
Well I signed up on a dating site last week. I’ve met two guys I really enjoy talking to. I’m going out with one on Saturday and the other probably earlier this week. I also had a hook-up with a former flame last week so surprisingly enough I guess they’re out there even in this dump of a town I live in.
Well best of luck to you and I expect a full report!
June 9, 2008 at 10:02 am
p.s. match just did an article on this http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=9509&TrackingID=516165&BannerID=541888&menuid=6>1=26000
That’s a great link. Thanks for sharing!
June 9, 2008 at 11:36 am
Okay I’ll let you on a little secret. People live in the real world. You go to Starbuck. Look people. The gym, hey sweaty people. I know its different for women since you won’t ask a guy out. However I find when I’m out in life doing all the stuff I do there are plenty of women around to ask out. So I know there are men out there too. I just don’t care about them and their’s nothing wrong with that.
Sure there are people in all of those places, but meeting them is another story. And in my daily life, at least, I find that I very very rarely meet anyone in those situations (even though there are so many people available) despite the fact I am frequently in them. And honestly, I don’t believe I know anyone else who magically meets people in Starbucks while getting their lattes either. Just sayin’.
June 9, 2008 at 12:16 pm
Hmm .. this is a good question. For me as of late, it’s been poker. There are just a ton of men that play, and while many are married, many are not. Of course I met Irishman at a bar … but that is odd for me. I just never ever meet men at a bar. Grocery stores? Starbucks, yes. But, you have to go in and sit for a while and do the eye contact thing. I never have time for that. What about the http://www.meetup.com? They have some cool things sometimes. I’ve never tried it though.
I will admit to being intimidated by MeetUp. I’ve signed up but never managed to make a meeting because of the general anxiety of going to meet a group of complete strangers alone. Meeting one person is less daunting.
June 9, 2008 at 4:18 pm
Hmm, Through friends, of course. But when I run out of guys to sleep with…Opps I mean date. I get more friends.
Seriously, I joined a few social groups & have meet some wonderful people. http://www.meetup.com. (That is meet not M-E-A-T)
I haven’t screwed up the courage for the meetup groups yet. If I had a fiend to go with, I’d feel differently I’m sure.
June 9, 2008 at 5:28 pm
Common interest groups like running clubs, hiking clubs, book clubs, dancing clubs…. There always seem to be attractive men in these clubs, in my experience, especially the athletics oreinted ones. And if there aren’t any men there are always women with friends, brothers, etc.
I also recommend Meetup.com to find groups that suit you.
And you could always take up running. For serious, this might be one of the best ways to meet great men. Not only are they in the running clubs but they are at the races, the track meets, the roads, the parks. It’s fun.
Oh sweetie, I don’t run unless chased. I can see ya’ll are going to bully me into facing my fear of large groups of strangers though!
June 9, 2008 at 5:34 pm
I can completely understand the turmoil or the “loss” of places to go or look to meet someone new. The online dating sites are fine, but it seems there are so many guys on there for the “chase” and yet when things seem promising they chicken out! I call it the too good to be true syndrome for the guys to meet us. You can meet through friends but at this point, your friends are long term and have been there for you, others will tell you I have just the person for you to meet, and that never pans out. I am not in the profession to meet many guys. I teach so my chances are limited. I have been asked for my number once in the grocery store but I was not interested and I have meet many guys through the “on line” sites but no long term luck, just yet. I guess I will have to go the route of “when you least expect it, it will happen!” Good Luck…
I lurve you, but I always kind of want to punch people who give that advice. I feel it’s safe to tell you that as you’re only saying what you’ve been told here.
June 9, 2008 at 9:58 pm
You know, I wonder about this all the time. I don’t meet people. Like, ever. Work is very not conducive. I just moved so I have very few friends. And most of the activities I actually enjoy doing aren’t very guy oriented. It’s quite depressing. And I’ve never been picked up in a grocery store. Or Starbucks. Although, this one old ugly man tried to pick me up on the street. And this other guy flashed his junk at me on the El this past weekend. Yeah.
Apparently we should both be at meetup.com. Unfortunately you’re too far away to be my buddy.
June 12, 2008 at 11:39 am
If you ever end up around Central FL, send me an email. I would be happy to introduce you to the meetup scene!
Gladly! And if you ever come up to the Baltimore area, let me know. I will gladly be totally boring right at you.