I have now spoken to PP several times this week. It is clear that he’s interested. He is not hiding that. But he is in a very busy period at work so he has zero free time. Literally. Zero. The boy actually worked until 1 AM one day this week and went back to the job 8 hours later.
Now I have a few hard and fast dating beliefs. And one of the big ones is that the job comes first. It’s nice to email or text or whatever throughout the day (if you’re into that sort of thing of course) but if a guy suddenly falls silent? I don’t cry over it. Job comes first. I don’t call boys at work. I I just don’t mess with anyone’s livelihood. That’s my bottom line.
I will not break those rules. But dammit, this is inconvenient. I am trying to determine if there will ever be anything to this, and I can’t see him! And the two hour long phone conversation we had this week was nice…. don’t misunderstand. But it doesn’t help like spending face time would.
So as nice as he is and as much as it’s not his fault, I’m afraid my disinterest is growing. I actually feel guilty about it as I know he isn’t doing this on purpose. But it’s happening nonetheless and there seems to be nothing either one of us can do.
The tale of PP may be coming to a close if something doesn’t give soon.


June 20, 2008 at 9:40 am
It’s nice that he keeps calling to let you know just how busy he is, and not just blowing you off. It shows his interest. However, not being able to see him would bring out my disinterest as well. Of course, who am I to talk? I like a man that lives 2 thousand miles away. *snort*
And yet you’ve spent more time with him than I have with PP! That’s all I’m sayin’.
June 20, 2008 at 10:07 am
Hmm, don’t know what to say in this comment. From experience, married 22 years, men CAN always find time to do the things they want to do. My hubs definition of a 1/2 day of work is to leave around 3pm, however when there is a “Business Man’s Special” for the Phillies, it’s amazing he can get out of there at 11 !!
Good luck
#1
While I appreciate the comment, I still believe this theory is wrong. Sometimes making time for more than a phone call may truly be impossible. You’re going to have to trust me when I say he’s not bullshitting. A little trust here is not misguided.
June 20, 2008 at 10:28 am
That really sucks and I can totally relate because I’m not in a similiar situation. I had a coffee date with a guy I was interested in recently and we haven’t been able to get back together because he’s taken a job that requires him to work nights. I hear from him frequently so I know he’s interested but with his schedule I can’t ever see him and it really sucks because we had great chemistry.
Sometimes life just gets in the way.
June 20, 2008 at 1:28 pm
I’ve met a few of these women over the years. IF in a few weeks they don’t pencil me in somewhere it ends. In my book if its important you make time just like you do in any point of the relationship. Most time I find out there is something else causing the unavailability.
I’m just going to ride it out and see. I have nothing invested so it’s no big deal.
June 22, 2008 at 9:13 am
I just do not understand the fact that if your job keeps you very busy, all hours of the day, then why try to meet others and possibly risk a connection and then have no time for them? A dinner, a drink, a couple hours here and there is not too much… I completely understand the disconnect starting… dating!@#$%
Sometimes people want what in the end they just can’t have? Who knows.
June 23, 2008 at 10:06 am
Listen lady, a job does come first SOMETIMES, I agree. But my theory is that if someone wants to see you, they should make the best effort to make YOU a priority. You deserve that and you shouldn’t sell yourself short.
This weekend…you, me, my drunk friends? yes?
I just don’t think making a virtual stranger a priority over your job is a realistic expectation for anyone.
Now, this weekend? Just not Friday night. Otherwise, hell yes!
June 23, 2008 at 12:00 pm
My friends are having birthday party starting at Looneys at 7 p.m. on Saturday. The night should wrap up with Karaoke at Walt’s Inn.;) They are a CRAZY bunch.
All I’m sayin’ is that last time I went to Looney’s, a bar fight nearly plowed into me.
June 23, 2008 at 10:57 pm
I’ll protect you. If you are iterested of course.;)
We’ll have to see. E-mail me chica.